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Here are 4 keys that will help you to reframe your negative thinking and become more positive. What often happens is that the “frame” we choose for our life or particular  situations is influenced  by our inner critic, which tends to have a negative impact on how we view events and ourselves.

When you learn to spot unhelpful “frames” and are able to make a positive change to how you frame or view them, you are likely to feel more positive, have more energy, feel lighter, more motivated and satisfied with life – so it is worth persevering until you have mastered the art of reframing.

Key 1. Reframing Your Inner Critic’s Thoughts And Words. When you find yourself about to think or say negative, self defeating statements, think about another way of framing what you are thinking, and talking about that will be more empowering  and motivating. For instance you could say;

A.  “I’m hopeless at having relationships”. so you reframe it and say-  “I really need to learn from my experiences so that I can attract the right kind of person into my life”.

B.  “I hate this task, it is going to be tedious”. Reframe – ” There must be a way for me to make this task more interesting”.

C.  ” Nothing ever goes right for me, I feel fed up and useless” Reframe- ” I’m facing lots of challenges right now and it is tough, I need to look at what is going well and my strengths to build/draw on those”.

Key 2.  Choose Your Words Carefully. The  words we use when we think and speak about a situation have a powerful impact on how we feel and behave, so we need to choose our words carefully. For example: do you face challenges, or problems? I find it useful to talk about the challenges that I am overcoming rather than problems or difficulties I have to face This might seem like semantics, but how we view things and the words we  use to describe them will have either a positive or negative impact on our ability to deal with the situation in hand.

Key 3. Change Your Outlook.  Whether we have a “glass-is-half-full” or “half-empty” view of life effects everything in our lives. Do you look at what went wrong or what went well? Do you focus on what did not happen or what might happen in the future? Do you think about what you don’t have in your life, rather than appreciate all the things you do have? These different ways of thinking again affect how happy and satisfied  we are with our lives and the actions we end up taking.

Many people think feel that this is part of their personality and you are either an optimistic or pessimistic person. However, from my own experiences  and from working with clients I know it is possible to change the glass from being half-empty to being half-full.

Key 4.  Reframing The Picture In Your Head. As well as changing  the picture in our head, we can change what we focus on when we look around us. If, when we think of something that has happened or that is going to take place in the future, we have negative images in our mind’s eye, we can reframe it and see it in a more positive, empowering and motivating light. Somebody once said “you can not conquer what you won’t confront. In other words if you never confront your negative thoughts and change them into positive,it’s a choice that you have to make in order to become more and more a positive thinking person, until negative thoughts have no power over your life,because you consciously reframe everything what is negative into positive.

In order to happen  for this in your life,you have to decide not to watch  or avoid  watching everything what is negative including news. Let me tell you about the news After you have listened them you are already depressed. Basically what you hear constantly eventually you will believe it. So,chose wisely,take small steps every day and become  a person you always wanted to be. So,choose to read,watch something positive every day and associate with positive thinking people as much as you can,than you’ll see how quickly your thinking will start to change.