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Positive self-talk will not actually change somebody’s personality, it can be sued to change that person’s perception of him or herself and thereby alter the way in which they project themselves to others, altering in turn the way that others perceive them.
By reassuring themselves of their own attractiveness as people and the desirability of their own company, normally shy and retiring people can discover newfound confidence that they will then project to the world at large. It is much the same effect as is had when a friend gives us a sincere compliment about some aspect of our character; not only are we pleased to hear this, but we become more aware of this good quality and make an unconscious effort to put it forward more.
What sorts of things should people say to achieve this change in their personalities? People should begin and end by reinforcing their own worth as human beings. It can be enormously helpful to make a list of all the kind of things you have said in the past concerning your personalities.
It can also be helpful to include a few compliments on physical appearance as well, since these also make us feel good and project confidence, but they should not be the focus of the self-talk, as physical attributes can change quite rapidly and should never be the focus of our evaluation of our own worth.
By repeating compliments other have given us we are able to remind ourselves that other people have seen our worth as well, and have noticed it enough to remark on it to us directly.
Subjects should then build on the list of compliments with ideas of their own. They might want to list other admirable attributes they have that they want people to notice more, and tell themselves that they will begin to display these good qualities to others. As they reinforce their own value as humans, they will acquire an increased confidence in themselves that will not only be noticed by those around them, but also be reflected in the behavior of others toward the subject, turning a once-vicious cycle into a beneficial one.
Gain a new attitude in self-talk.

Each person is essentially self-made. The person you are may have been determined by your childhood experiences. But the person that you become, the person that you may be, is completely under your own control. The great principle, that “You become what you think about most of the time” refers to what you are thinking today, at this very moment. It is not your thinking of the past, or your thinking in the future, that determines the course of your destiny. Everything you are, and everything you will be, is determined by the thoughts that you think at each moment. And you can take complete control of those thoughts at any time you decide to. You become an optimist by taking control of your inner dialogue, your self-talk.  Resolve today to develop the habit of talking to yourself in a positive way. Say things to yourself like, “I like myself!” Say, “I can do it!” over and over again. If
someone asks you how you are feeling today, always reply by saying “I feel terrific!” When you think about your job, repeat to yourself, “I love my work! I love my work!”  Fully 95% of your emotions are determined by the things you think and the words you say to yourself as you go throughout your day. Use your self-discipline and self-control to think and talk about the things you want, rather than allowing your mind to become preoccupied with the things that you don’t want, or with your doubts and fears.

The most powerful affirmation or message that you can send from your conscious mind to your subconscious mind is a visualization or mental image.  Develop the habit of creating clear, positive, exciting pictures of yourself performing at your best, and of your goals as if they were already achieved.  Each time you create a mental image in your conscious mind, you send a message that activates your subconscious mind, triggers the Law of Attraction, stimulates your creativity, and moves you toward the realization of that mental picture in your external world.  Positive, successful people make a habit of continually visualizing the outcomes that they desire, thereby programming their subconscious minds and shaping their self-image and their external performance. But best of all is when you combine positive self-talk with positive mental imaging. You talk about the things you want and you create exciting mental pictures of your goals and desires as if they already existed in your reality. Positive thoughts and words make you more optimistic, give you more energy, enable you to bounce back faster from disappointment and keep you moving forward throughout the day.

Do I always have to have a specific goal in mind when I begin my positive self-talk sessions?

No, you do not always have to have one concrete goal in mind when you begin your self-talk sessions. It is true that having one particular goal or direction in mind can be extremely beneficial in helping you further your progress.In one particular area, but if you are looking to just generally improve your outlook on life and your ability to cope with trying situations, here are some helpful phrases that you can use in your positive self-talk sessions to accomplish that goal.

My life is nothing but a mirror of my consistent thoughts. That’s why I decide to stay focused and  act on my greatest passions.

“When I choose to undertake a task I will make steady progress on it.”

“I will become more dedicated to the process of a complete and balanced life. I will rejoice   and be excited about improved area of  my life.”

“Every time I think about my  goal for my life I will do my best to make positive progress toward it every day.”

“I am willing and determined to  make every change in  my daily schedule  that may be required ,that to change my life for the better.”

“Each day I will devote some time and effort to improve  my self confidence”.

“I will take time to make note of all my successes, and I will be sure to take pleasure in the results. I will also make every effort to learn from whatever failures or setbacks I may encounter, and be sure to view these as learning opportunities.”

“I will make every effort to change that which is in my power to change and to stay all the time positive”.

“My level of patience can be improved on. I will work to become less irritated by the pettier things in life.”

“I will avoid disturbing topics that upset me and those around me. I will not dwell on morbid or upsetting topics.”

“I will  do my best to surround my self with people having positive attitude”.

“I will make every effort to focus on the pleasant things in life. I will focus on the sort of person I want to be.”

“I will make every effort to guard against my known weaknesses .”

“I will make note of my past mistakes. While I will be careful to not dwell on them so much that they overshadow future successes, it is important to recognize them so I can learn from them in the future.”

“I will make every effort to make careful note of those obstacles that stand between me and my future happiness, health and peace of mind”.

“If I encounter disappointment this will not shake my faith in me or my abilities,”

“I will be able to better concentrate and focus.”

“I will be able to remember things with greater ease. My memory will improve.”

“My self control will increase.”

“I will develop a peace of mind and sense of tranquillity.”

Of course, these are only suggestions. For maximum results, it is best to make a personal list of what you want to achieve, and work from there.