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Each failure potentially has a negative impact on your self-confidence. When feeling low on confidence, our natural tendency is to shy away from any situation in which we might have to do something. We naturally want to sneak away from additional proof as to our “failings” and thus make ourselves feel less bad. The reality is that this doesn’t work – we’ll resent ourselves for being pathetic, for not giving things a go.

By avoiding situations because of a fear of failure, our mind is unconsciously marking down our behavior as a failure anyway. When we see someone who has tried and failed – perhaps a friend who tried to set up her own business, or a colleague who left the company but didn’t like this new job – we see this as evidence that we should stick with what we’ve got: better the devil you know than the devil you don’t. But the fact is that more of us say “If only I had” rather than “I wish I hadn’t”. For every person who is a bit impetuous and rushes in without thinking things through properly, there are many more who haven’t the courage to act on their dreams, to give things a try, and who live with that regret forever.

Winners act in a way that maximizes the potential for success: they don’t rush in without thinking, but nor do they spend forever dreaming and never doing. It’s not like there is a particularly amazing secret to success. Again, a lot of it boils down to self-belief, as a theory called the Pygmalion Effect suggest. The theory goes that one of the main reasons why successful and decisive people are successful and decisive is because they believe they are successful and decisive in the way they implement the wining model.

Similarly, one of the main reasons that unsuccessful and indecisive people are unsuccessful and indecisive is because they believe they are unsuccessful and indecisive. In both cases, the power of self-belief makes it a self-fulfilling prophecy. Be proactive and make decisions and you are on your way to being a winner. And don’t worry when you make mistakes. It’s normal – winners makes mistakes too. It’s just that they learn from them for future reference, thus turning a negative into a positive.

Talk Yourself Into It

Psychologist swear by the power of self-talk. So instead of saying “I can’t” say “I can” and “I will”. Return to the big decision you have to make. Now you say to yourself: “I will do it”. And believe it. Don’t leave it up to fate. Don’t worry what might go wrong. Just do whatever it takes to achieve it. Boost your “I will” power and automatically your mindset will become a wining mindset. Making proactive and positive decisions can help us:

A.  Beat the fear of failure and of the unknown.

B.  Break away from the restrictive status quo.

C. Reduce our sense of powerlessness.

D. Reduce our feelings of regret and “If only”

E. Maximize our wining potential.

Being a winner is not just about of making the opportunities,but about taking them too. There may be a few ups and downs along the way. That’s natural: wining doesn’t happen in a straight line. Just don’t stop where others stop because of poor self-belief or self-discipline. Be a warrior and fight back against any setbacks and obstacles. Take control of your life and you will feel more empowered, more proactive, less stressed and more likely to achieve your goals. The decision is your.

How To Feel Like A Winner

A. Live in the now – to be able to enjoy your achievements, you’ve got to be aware of them to begin with. So you need to give yourself credit when you succeed.

B. Don’t live only in the past – either by dwelling  on the past failures or harping back to the good old times too much.

C. Don’t live only in the future – if you’re always looking to the next step, always worrying about tomorrow’s problems, your life will slip away without your being able to consciously enjoy it. Many people miss out  on the enjoyment in an effort to keep chasing the next success, and that is why they are never happy. Live for the moment and in the moment.