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The Power Of Physiology

By Sergejus · 15/02/2010

The biggest leverage we have in any situation is PHYSIOLOGY. Remember, mind and body are totally linked in a cybernetic loop, so the best way to change your state (how you feel) instantly is by changing your PHYSIOLOGY-putting yourself in a powerful physiology. Physiology is the lever to emotional change. In fact, you can’t have a change in physiology without a corresponding change in state, and you can’t have an emotion without a corresponding change in physiology. We think of states as primarily mental, but in fact, they all have very clear, identifiable physiologies. Think of a depressed person-eyes are generally down ( talking to themselves about all the things that make them depressed), shoulders dropped, and weak, shallow breathing. Depression is a result, and it requires very specific body images to create it.
Studies even show that when people get depressed, the biochemical and electrical processes of their bodies are also affected-their immune systems follow suit and become less efficient-their white blood cell count drops. The exciting thing is that you can just as easily create the result called ecstasy by changing your physiology in other specific ways. Smiling and laughing (using the 80 muscles in our face) set off biological processes that make us feel good-they increase the flow of blood to the brain and change the level of oxygen and the level of stimulation of the neurotransmitters. The good news is that you can just pretend, or act “as if you felt more resourceful, more powerful, and happier than you’ve ever felt before-”How would I stand, breathe, look, and use my face if I were to act ‘as if I felt the best I can feel?”

An important corollary of physiology is congruency. If I’m giving you what I think is a positive message-like “I can handle it”-but my voice is weak and tentative and my shoulders are hunched over and my eyes are down, I’m incongruent, and your unconscious mind will pick up what your conscious mind didn’t, and you won’t feel confident about my ability. Unconsciously you know that part of me believes I can handle it; and part of me doesn’t. I am representing one thing in words and quite another in physiology. But if you say, “I absolutely will do that,” and your physiology is unified-that is, your posture, your facial expression, your breathing pattern, the quality of your gestures and movements, and your words and your tonality match-I know you absolutely will do it. One of the best ways to develop congruency is to model the physiologies of people who are congruent-people you respect and admire-watch them in person, or get videotapes of famous people in resourceful states you might want to model.
Remember, modeling is about creating possibility. And there’s no faster, more dynamic way than through physiology.

The Power Of Belief

By Sergejus · 12/02/2010

“Man is what he believes.” – Anton Chekhov
Think of the story of Pablo Casals at 90-frail and arthritic, the very thought of playing the piano totally changed his state and thus the effectiveness of his body he believed in the transcendent power of his art, his music.
Beliefs deliver direct commands to your nervous system. Handled effectively, they can be the most powerful forces for creating good in your life. On the other hand, beliefs that limit your actions and thoughts can be as devastating as resourceful beliefs can be empowering. Beliefs are the compass and maps that guide us toward our goals and give us the certainty to know we’ll get there. Without beliefs or the ability to tap into them, people can be totally dis-empowered; with powerful guiding beliefs, you can see what you want and be energized to get it.
The more we learn about human behavior, the more we learn about the extraordinary power that beliefs have over our lives. There have been numerous studies in which a person in a hypnotic trance is touched with a piece of ice represented to him/her as a piece of hot metal. Invariably a blister will develop at the point of contact. What counted was not reality but belief-the direct, unquestioned communication to the nervous system. The brain simply does what it’s told through our beliefs.
Norman Cousins talks about the placebo effect, and from his own illness and studying many others, concludes, “Drugs are not always necessary. Belief in recovery always is.”
Belief is nothing but a state-a feeling of certainty-that governs behavior. The birth of excellence begins with our awareness that our beliefs are a choice. You can choose beliefs that limit you, or you can choose beliefs that support you. The biggest misconception people often have of belief is that it’s a static, intellectual concept, an understanding that’s divorced from action and results. Nothing could be further from the truth. Belief is the doorway to excellence precisely because there’s nothing divorced or static about it.
Beliefs come from a variety of sources:
1) ENVIRONMENT may be the single most potent generator of belief-ghettos, on the one hand, supporting environments that help foster beliefs about being “special” on the other.
2) EVENTS, SMALL OR LARGE-like Kennedy’s assassination, and personal events we’ll never forget.
3) KNOWLEDGE is one of the ways to break the shackles of a limiting environment.
4) OUR PAST RESULTS-knowing you’ve already achieved the result you want before-just once is usually enough.
5) CREATE IN YOUR MIND THE EXPERIENCE YOU DESIRE IN THE FUTURE AS IF IT WERE HERE NOW-experiencing results “in advance.”
It is important to remember that the potentials we tap, the results we get, are all part of a dynamic process that begins with belief.
If you start with a belief system that stresses what you can’t do, you tap a limited amount of your potential, and you take half-hearted action, tentative actions, which will probably lead to dismal results, and then what will these results do to your beliefs about subsequent endeavors? This is a classic downward spiral: failure breeds failure.
On the positive side, however, if you begin by believing with every fiber of your being that you will succeed, you’ll tap lots of your potential, take massive action, and your belief in your ability to produce even better results in the future will be affirmed. In this case, success feeds on success and each success creates more belief and momentum to success on an even higher scale.
Amazingly, sometimes just not having a limiting belief is enough to ensure success, or to have an experience that disproves a particular limitation.
YOUR REALITY IS THE REALITY YOU CREATE THROUGH YOUR BELIEFS. CHOOSE THEM WELL!

Develop The Habit Of Being A Pleasant & Positive Person.

By Sergejus · 07/02/2010

Perhaps the most helpful decision you can make is to develop the habit of being a pleasant, positive person. Refuse to criticize, condemn or complain. Do not engage in gossip or gripe sessions with your coworkers. Imagine that everything that you say at work will be repeated and published on the company bulletin board. Guard your tongue. Instead, look for something good to say about everyone. Always be cheerful and friendly. Be patient and easy going. Be polite and courteous. Be thoughtful and considerate. Be the kind of person that everyone likes to have working for them, or likes to work for or with. In our modern business world, it is always the people who are competent, capable, likable and pleasant who are paid the most and promoted the fastest. Make it a habit to look for the good in every person and situation, and to keep focused on helping other people, and adding value to your company. These habits will help you as much or more than anything else you could possibly do. On the other hand,the Bible says that ” when you are kind and good you nourish your soul,and when you are cruel you destroy your soul. When I look at my life,I only can say this. When I’m kind,nice and good to others-I’m the one who benefits most from it. Let me tel you why; you will feel good and more happier also you’ll be more productive .

Here are some action exercises that will help you to develop habits to become more positive and productive,

1. Always look for ways to say something nice, uplifting to a person that makes him feel good,because remember what I have said before,every time you say something nice to others,you yourself will feel better and happier,that’s how it works.

2. Use self talk,and remind yourself every time,that you want to be a nice,kind and easy going person that everyone wants to be around. And then,look for opportunities to do that. May goodness and kindness be guides of your day.

3. Develop the habit of working well with others; always be looking for ways to contribute, to help others to do their jobs better and faster.

4. Determine what you find easy to learn and easy to do, and what you most enjoy doing at work; find a job doing more of that.
5. Identify your unique talents and abilities, and dedicate yourself to becoming absolutely excellent in those areas.
6. Work all the time you work; when you start earlier, work harder and stay later, you quickly separate yourself from all the others.
7. Get the job done fast! The faster you move, the more energy you have, the more you get done, and the faster you will be paid more and promoted to higher levels of responsibility.

“The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.”
Eleanor Roosevelt

Never forget the person you want to become.

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Zero Based Thinking

By Sergejus · 04/02/2010

In zero based thinking, you put every one of your previous decisions on trial for its life on a regular basis. You ask this question, Is there anything that I am doing today that, knowing what I now know, I wouldn’t get into again today, if I had to do it over?
Apply this question to every part of your life, and especially apply it to your job, position, career and current situation. If you were not now doing what you are currently doing, would you get into it again today, knowing what you now know about this area? Asking and answering this question takes a good deal of courage. The fact is that in a world of rapid change, you will always have situations that, with your current knowledge, you wouldn’t get into again today if you had the choice. These situations will almost always be the primary causes of stress or dissatisfaction in your life. They will cause you the most aggravation and frustration. If you stay in a zero based situation long enough, it can even make you physically ill. If the answer to this question, “Is there anything that I’m doing that I wouldn’t get into again today?” is “yes”, then your next question should be, “How do I get out of this situation, and how fast?” Often you can change your entire life by simply having the courage to face up to the fact that your previous decision has not turned out to be as good as you originally thought. There is nothing wrong with this. You are not perfect. Everyone makes decisions that they later regret, based on new information. This will happen throughout your life. The only question is, “How long are you going to stay in a situation that you know is not right for you?” It is not possible for you to be successful and happy in your career or job if, knowing what you now know, you wouldn’t even get into it again today if you had it to do over. I believe that these two questions will help you to understand better your current position in life,and that the answers to the questions will help you to make new decisions that will change your future for the better.

Good Luck and God Bless You!

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The Ideal Job For You

By Sergejus · 02/02/2010

There are more than 100,000 different jobs and job categories in the United States alone. There are an unlimited number of things that you can do to earn a good living and to achieve financial independence. You must therefore develop the habit of thinking about the work that you would most love to do. Instead of accepting whatever job or position comes along, you should be continually thinking about your ideal job, exactly as if you could design it personally in every respect. The highest paid and most successful people in our society do what they love to do, as much of the time as they possibly can. You should continually be standing back, examining yourself objectively, and then practicing the habit of focusing on your special talents and abilities. Each person is born with the ability to do one or more things in an exceptional fashion. Just as you have multiple intelligences, you have multiple abilities as well. You will only really be happy and successful when you find the kind of work that taps into the unique talents you have today, or which you can develop tomorrow.

Dr. Victor Frankl, the founder of Logotherapy, wrote that there are four types of jobs that you can do.

The first of these jobs are hard to learn and hard to do. This type of work would include a task like accounting or bookkeeping for a person who has no natural skill in that area. It would be hard to learn, and no matter how many years you did it, it would be hard to do. Many people find themselves in jobs or careers where they are mismatched in terms of their natural abilities and what the job requires. Their work is always hard and seldom satisfying. Don’t let this happen to you.

The second type of job that Frankl identified was a job that was hard to learn but easy to do. This may be a skill like typing with a keyboard or flying an airplane. It takes tremendous dedication and concentration to learn, but once you have mastered it, it is quite easy to do, hour after hour. Unfortunately, this type of job can become boring and unchallenging over time. It seldom causes you to stretch your capabilities and grow your talents.
The third type of job you might find yourself in is a job that easy to learn but hard to do. Physical labor falls into this category, like digging a ditch. It’s easy to learn to do a physically difficult job, but it is always hard to do, no matter how long you do it. Think about chopping wood!
The fourth job category, and the most important, are those things that you find easy to learn and easy to do. You learned it so easily, and do it so naturally, that you almost forget when and how you learned it in the first place. As you can imagine, the jobs and tasks that are easy to learn and easy to do are the best indicators of your natural talents and abilities. This is where you are the most likely to do the best job, get the best results, and to be paid the very most. Throughout your life and career, you must be continually analyzing your activities to identify the things that you learn and do easily, and from which you get the best results and rewards. This type of work for you is the key to career success.

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4 Causes Of Negative Emotions.

By Sergejus · 24/01/2010

Stop Justifying
1. Stop Justifying. The first of the four root causes of negative emotions is justification. You can only be negative as long as you can justify, to yourself and others, that you are entitled to be angry or upset for some reason. This is why angry people are continually explaining and elaborating on the reasons for their negative feelings. However, if you cannot justify your negativity, you cannot be angry. For example, a person is laid off from a job due to a change in the economy and declining sales in the company. However, the individual is angry with his boss for this decision and justifies his anger by describing all the reasons why his being laid off was unfair. He can even get himself so incensed that he decides to sue, or get even in some way. As long as he continues to justify his negative feelings toward his boss and the company, his negative emotions control him and absorb much of his life and thinking.
However, as soon as he says, “Well, I’ve been laid off. These things happen. It’s not personal. People get laid off all the time. I guess I’d better get busy finding a new job.” His negative emotions vanish. He becomes calm, clear and focused on the goal, and on the steps he can take to get back into the workforce. As soon as he stops justifying, he becomes a more positive and effective person.
2. Refuse to Rationalize And Make Excuses. The second cause of negative emotions is rationalization. When you rationalize, you attempt to give a “socially acceptable explanation for an otherwise socially unacceptable act.” You rationalize to explain away or put a favorable light on something that you have done that you feel bad or unhappy about. You excuse your behavior or actions by creating an explanation that sounds good, even though you know that you were an active agent in whatever occurred. You often create complex ways of putting yourself in the right by explaining that your behavior was really quite acceptable, all things considered. This rationalizing keeps your negative emotions alive.
Rationalization and justification always require that you make someone or something else the source or cause of your problem. You cast yourself in the role of the victim, and you make the other person or organization into the oppressor, or the “bad guy.”

3. Rise Above the Opinions of Others. The third cause of negative emotions is an over concern or hypersensitivity to the way other people treat you. For some people, their entire self-image is determined by the way other people speak to them, talk to them or about them, or even look at them. They have little sense of personal value or self-worth apart from the opinions of others, and if those opinions are negative for any reason, real or imagined, the “victim” immediately experiences anger, embarrassment, shame, feelings of inferiority and even depression, self-pity and despair. This explains why psychologists say that almost everything we do is to earn the respect of others, or at least to avoid losing their respect.
4. No One Else Is Responsible. The fourth cause of negative emotions, and the worst of all, is blaming. When I draw the “Negative Emotions Tree” , I illustrate the trunk of the tree as the propensity to blame other people for our problems. Once you cut down the trunk of the tree, all the fruits of the tree, all the other negative emotions, die immediately, just as when you jerk the plug out of the wall that lights up the Christmas lights in the tree, all the lights go out instantly.

The antidote for negative emotions of all kinds is for you to accept complete responsibility for your situation. You cannot say the words, “I am responsible!” and still feel angry. The very act of accepting responsibility short-circuits and cancels out any negative emotions you may be experiencing. Just imagine! You can free yourself from negative emotions and begin taking control of your life by simply saying, “I am responsible!” whenever you start to feel angry or upset for any reason. It is only when you free yourself from negative emotions, by taking complete responsibility that you can begin to set and achieve goals in every area of your life. It is only when you are free, mentally and emotionally, that you can begin to channel your energies and enthusiasms in a forward direction. This is why, without the acceptance of complete personal responsibility, no progress is possible. On the other hand, once you accept total responsibility for your life, there are no limits on what you can be, do and have.

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What Is & How To Develop Self-Discipline (part 1/2)

By Sergejus · 20/01/2010

Self-discipline is- the companion of willpower and appears in various forms, such as staying power, perseverance, restraint, and as the ability to carry out one’s decisions and plans, in spite of inconvenience, hardships or obstacles. One of the main characteristics of self-discipline is the ability to forego instant and immediate gratification and pleasure, in favor of some greater gain or more satisfying results, even if this requires effort and time. It’s a very useful and much needed skill in everyone’s life, and though most people acknowledge its importance, yet very few do anything to develop and strengthen it. There are several reasons for this state of affairs, some of them being lack of enough information available on this subject, laziness and ignorance. In addition, the term self-discipline often causes some discomfort and fear, due to the erroneous notion that it is something unpleasant, difficult to attain, and which requires a lot of effort and sacrifice. It does require some effort and practice to attain, but it is a skill that everyone can develop to a lesser or greater extent through special training. The same exercises that develop and strengthen willpower also develop and strengthen self-discipline. True self-discipline is not a punitive or restrictive lifestyle as some people think, and has nothing to do with being narrow minded or living like a fakir. It is inner strength and staying power, vital for dealing with the affairs of daily life and for the achieving of goals. It enables you to overcome laziness, procrastination and indecisiveness. It also helps you take the necessary action in every situation, even if it is unpleasant and requires effort, also enables you to exercise moderation in what you do, become patient, and have the strength to avoid impulsive actions. In addition, this skill enables you to withstand external pressure and influence.
A self-disciplined person does not produce excuses, but keeps and fulfills the promises he makes to himself and to others. A person can be talented, bright and educated, but without self discipline he or she will not reach far.
You need willpower in order to make decisions and start working toward accomplishing them, and you need self-discipline in order to stick with your decisions and goals until you accomplish them. Perhaps the best definition of self-discipline comes from Elbert Hubbard, “Self-discipline is the ability to make yourself do what you should do, when you should do it, whether you feel like it or not. I know that this is most important thing that you should do if you want to develop self-discipline. There is no other way how can you develop it. It’s got to be done this way,whether you feel like it or not, do it anyway. The habit of self-discipline is closely tied to the Law of Control. The Law of Control says that, “You feel happy about yourself to the degree to which you feel you are in control of your own life.” Self-discipline is the key to self-mastery and self-control. The more capable you become of disciplining yourself to do what you have decided to do, whether you feel like it or not, the more positive and powerful you will feel. There is a direct relationship between self-discipline and self-esteem. The more you discipline yourself to behave in the manner that you have decided, the more you like and respect yourself. The more positive and confident you will feel. The stronger and more in charge of your life and situation you become. Every act of self-discipline strengthens every other discipline at the same time. Every weakness in self-discipline weakens your other disciplines as well. Like working a muscle, your ability to discipline yourself to behave in the way that you have decided grows stronger each time you exercise it. This is why the happiest, most successful and most respected men and women in our society are all men and women of great self-control, self-mastery and self-discipline. ( The Part 2 will be on How To Develop Self-Discipline )

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