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As you grow older, you become increasingly sensitive to the approval or disapproval of others, starting with members of your family, and then your friends and associates. Teenagers especially become extremely sensitive to whether or not they are liked or disliked by their peers. Instead of being fearless and spontaneous,completely open, honest and expressive, they begin to shape their behaviors and conform to whatever they feel their peers will approve of at the moment. The child does not know why the parent is behaving this way. The child simply
concludes that, “Every time I do something that Mommy or Daddy disapproves of,they stop loving me. Therefore, whatever it is, I have to do what makes them happy. I have to do what pleases them. I have to do what they want if I want to be safe.” This feeling generates what is called the “compulsive negative habit pattern,” which is characterized by the words “I have to!” As an adult, the child who was subjected to disapproval and destructive criticism becomes hypersensitive to the attitudes and opinions of others. They are continually saying, “I have to do this” or “I have to do that.” When the fear of rejection becomes extreme, the individual becomes so hypersensitive to the opinions of others that he or she cannot make a decision until he or she is absolutely convinced that everyone in the world around them will approve and support the decision.
The worst situation of all, which is quite common in most people, is the combined feeling of, “I have to” but “I can’t.” The individual feels that he has to do something in order to win the approval of an important person in his life, but simultaneously, he is afraid of trying anything new or different, and becomes extremely sensitive to the reactions and comments of anyone around him. The root cause of negative habit patterns can almost always be traced back to “destructive criticism” in early childhood. Often, destructive criticism is accompanied by physical punishment. In either or both cases, the child very quickly loses his or her natural spontaneity and becomes fearful and hypersensitive to others. All the other fears that hold people back – the fears of loss, of poverty, of embarrassment, of ridicule, of ill health, of the loss of love of someone, of public speaking, of taking a chance, of starting or trying something new or different – are all rooted in the fears of failure and rejection that begin in early childhood. One of the greatest discoveries in the development of the peak performance personality is that your fears and your level of self-esteem have an inverse or opposite relationship. In other words, the more you like yourself, the less you fear failure and rejection. The higher your levels of self-esteem, the lower are the fears and doubts that hold most people back. The more you like and value yourself, the more willing you are to take risks and to endure the inevitable setbacks, obstacles and temporary failures that will occur. The more you like yourself, the less concerned you are with the approval or disapproval of other people. You go your own way. The very fastest way to build your self-esteem and self-confidence, and to neutralize the fears that may be holding you back, is to repeat continually the words “I like myself!” Whenever you feel doubtful or uneasy, begin repeating these words to yourself, “I like myself! I like myself! I like myself!” The most important habit you can develop is the habit of deliberately building your own self-esteem and self-confidence on a daily basis. The more you feed your mind with positive words, pictures, and thoughts, the more positive, confident, optimistic and unafraid you become. The more you like yourself, the better you do at anything you attempt. The more you like yourself, the less you fear failure and rejection. The more you like yourself, the less you worry about short-term setbacks and obstacles. The more you like yourself, the greater courage and resilience you will have to face the inevitable ups and downs of life. And the more you like yourself, the more it is that you will persist until you succeed. Self-esteem is everything. And  remember, as I always say “The Best Is Jet To Come!”  Have A Great Day.

It is natural for people to develop negative thoughts and feelings. Although it is not easy to get rid of these “negatives,” it’s important that people learn to focus instead on more positive thoughts and ideas. We can  practice the skills necessary to replace negative thoughts and feelings and cultivate a more positive attitude. Like everyone else, you have negative thoughts and feelings — fear, insecurity, guilt, and even hatred. But also like everyone else, you have within yourself the ability to replace these “negatives” with a more positive way of thinking. It may not always be easy, but it is possible! One technique often recommended for getting rid of negative thoughts and feelings is to replace them with positive thoughts, mental pictures of peaceful scenes, such as the light of the moon on water, the ocean washing gently on the sand, or the stars twinkling on a clear, quiet night. Think of a peaceful scene you could use to prevent negative thoughts from creeping into your mind. Sometimes, simply thinking of peaceful words and expressions might do the trick. Using today’s newspaper, find and circle at least 10 “peaceful”words and expressions to tuck away when you need a little peace of mind. Are you a user of “little negatives”? Do such phrases as “I don’t think I can do that” or “I’m afraid I’ll be late” clutter up your conversation? You may not even realize it when you use negatives words and phrases. Regardless, if you use them enough, they can condition you to think negatively, too. Before you know it, little negatives will clutter up your mind, as well as your conversation. Often, it’s not the “little negatives” that stand in the way of a positive attitude. It’s the big ones! People who consistently talk negatively not only affect themselves and their attitudes but others who are around them. On the other hand, people who carry on personal and group conversations with upbeat words and expressions give themselves and others plenty to be positive about. When people feel inferior, they are easily discouraged and can even become depressed. Instead of focusing on the things they can do well, they dwell on their weaknesses and failures. The problem with this is that too often people don’t take enough time to rest and relax. Even young people need to take time to give their minds and bodies a break. It can restore your energy, ease the stress and tension in your life, and, yes, help you maintain a positive outlook. And remember whatever you are fighting against,always fight back with opposite,but in oder to fight with opposite you must be well equipped. Never forget,that battle always begins in your mind,and in order to win the battle,you must feed your mind constantly with positive information. If you start from “Anthony Robbins” or ” Bob Proctor” it will be a good start. So,good luck,and don’t forget “The Best Is Jet To Come!”

When you are born, you come into the world with two natural qualities. First, you are completely unafraid. You are totally fearless. You have no reason to be afraid because you have had no experiences to make you afraid. The second natural quality that you are born with is that you are completely spontaneous. You laugh,cry, pee, poop, sleep and express yourself with no thought or concern about whether anybody approves or disapproves. These are your natural qualities in a state of nature. As an adult, when you feel completely relaxed and safe, surrounded by people whom you like and trust, your natural tendency is to revert to being completely open and unafraid, spontaneous and expressive. This is the ideal condition of the completely happy, fully functioning adult. Starting early in childhood, as the result of the things your parents do and say, you begin to learn the two basic negative habit patterns that then become the most destructive influences in your life as an adult.
The first negative habit pattern that you learn is called the inhibitive negative habit pattern. This is what soon becomes the fear of failure, risk and loss. As a child, your natural urge is to explore your environment. You eagerly reach out to touch,taste, feel and experiment with everything around you. But often your parents react and even over react to this behavior by discouraging you as much as possible. They say, “No! Get away from that! Don’t touch that! Leave that alone!” Many parents reinforce their words and threats with spankings and punishment. Children need love like roses need rain. Love is as important to the developing child as is food. Any interruption of the flow of unconditional love to the child causes the child to feel nervous and frightened. Psychologists say that virtually all adult problems are rooted in the phenomena of “love withheld” in early childhood. When your parents become angry with you as the result of your natural desire and drive to explore your world and your environment, you have no way of understanding that this is because of their fear for your safety. Instead, as a child,you merely react and respond with the idea that, “Every time I try or touch or taste something new or different, my mother or father gets angry at me. It must be because I am incapable and incompetent. It must be because I am no good. It must be because I can’t do it.” Fear of Trying Anything New This feeling of “I can’t” begins the development of the fear of failure. If you are discouraged or punished too often as a child, very early in life you will become fearful of trying new things. This fear will then carry over into later childhood,adolescence and adult life. Thereafter, whenever you think of doing something new or different, something that entails risk or uncertainty, your first reaction will be “I can’t!”

As soon as you say the words “I can’t” to yourself, you will begin immediately to think of all the reasons why such a thing is not possible for you. You will think and talk in terms of failure, rather than success. You will think of the uncertainties and all the possible risks of loss that may occur. Before you even try something new, you will talk yourself out of it. Napoleon Hill, author of Think and Grow Rich, once asked an audience, “What is the average number of times that a person tries to achieve a new goal before they give up?” After several guesses from the audience, he gave the answer. “Less than one.”
The point he made was that most people give up before they try the first time. They give up without even trying once. Even though they want to improve their lives,increase their incomes, and accomplish more than they are today, as soon as the new goal pops into their mind, they automatically respond with the words “I can’t!” And begin thinking of all the reasons why it is not possible for them. The most important habit you can develop for great happiness and success is the habit of repeating to yourself and believing, “I can do anything I put my mind to!” The most powerful words that you can repeat, over and over, to neutralize and overcome the fear of failure, are the words, “I can do it! I can do it!”
The kindest words that a parent can tell his or her child, in addition to the words “I love you,” are the words “You can do anything that you set your mind to.” It is amazing how many people’s lives have been dramatically affected by the influence of a single person, a parent, relative or friend, who simply told them, over and over again, “You can do it.” So,why not to give your best shot to whatever idea you’ve got,do something about it while you can,and don’t think that you can’t do it. Good Luck! And remember “The Best Is Jet To come!”

This law says that, you are a living magnet; you invariably attract into your life the people, ideas and circumstances that harmonize with your dominant thoughts.” This law of attraction has been written and spoken about for five thousand years. It is one of the most important of all principles in explaining success and failure. The law of attraction says that your thoughts are activated by your emotions, either positive or negative, and that they then create a force field of energy around you that attracts into your life, like iron filings to a magnet, exactly the people and circumstances that are in harmony with those thoughts. Like all mental laws, the law of attraction is neutral. If you think positive thoughts,you attract positive people and circumstances. If you think negative thoughts, you attract negative people and circumstances. Successful, happy people continually think and talk about the things they want to attract into their lives. Unsuccessful,unhappy people are continually talking about the people and situations that cause them to feel angry and frustrated.
One of the most important habits you develop is the habit of keeping your mind full of exciting, positive, emotionalized pictures and images of the exact things you want to see materialize in your life, and in the world around you. This is one of the most difficult of disciplines, but one that pays off in extraordinary ways. This will help you to understand better. Your outer world is a reflection of your inner world. It is as though you live in a 360-degree mirror. Everywhere you look, you see yourself reflected back at you. People treat you the way you treat them. The way you think about your physical body will be reflected in your health habits and your
appearance. The way you think about people and your relationships will be reflected back to you in the quality of your friendships and your family life. The way you think about success and prosperity will be reflected in the results that you enjoy in your career and your material life. In every case, your outer world reflects back to you, like a mirror image, exactly what you are thinking in the deepest recesses of your mind. “You become what you think about – most of the time.”
Just think! You become what you think about most of the time. You probably heard this many times,but it’s true. You always move in the direction of your dominant thoughts. Everything in your outer world is controlled and determined by what you are thinking in your inner world. The good news is that there is only thing in the universe over which you have complete control, and that is the content of your conscious mind. So,if you don’t like the content of your mind,change the books you read today, programs you watch,people you associate and so on… Another thing,you and  only you can decide what you think about most of the time. And fortunately, this is all the control that you need to shape your own life and determine your own future. By taking complete control of your conscious thoughts, you can control the direction of your life. By taking control, you will feel happy, powerful, confident and free. You will become unstoppable. You can do anything you think you can. This knowledge is literally the gift of the Creator, for through it you can solve every human problem. It should make of you an incurable optimist. It is the open door to unlimited possibilities. And remember “The Best Is Jet To Come “

This law says that,whatever you expect, with confidence, becomes your own self-fulfilling prophecy. In other words, you do not necessarily get what you want, but rather what you expect. If you confidently expect something to happen, this expectation has a powerful effect on your attitude and your personality. The more confident your expectations,the more likely it is that you will do and say the things that are consistent with what you expect to happen. As a result, you will dramatically increase the probabilities that you will achieve exactly what you are hoping for. One of the wonderful things about expectations is that you can create your
own. You can get up each morning and say; “I believe something wonderful is going to happen to me today.” As you go through the day, you create a force field
of expectations that surrounds you and effects the people with whom you come in contact.  And in some remarkable way, a series of wonderful things, both large and
small, will happen to you throughout the day. Successful people expect to be successful, in advance. Happy people expect to be happy. Popular people expect to be liked by others. They develop the habit of expecting that something good will happen in every situation. They expect to benefit from every occurrence, even temporary setbacks and failures. They expect the best of other people, and always assume the best of intentions. And they are seldom disappointed. The flipside of positive expectations are the negative expectations that many people have. Unhappy people expect to fail more often than they succeed. They expect that other people will hurt or disappoint them. They expect their ventures to do poorly. Instead of expecting the best, they expect the worst, and because the law is neutral, they are seldom disappointed. One of the most important things you can do to assure a happy, healthy, prosperous life, is to expect the very best from every person or situation, no matter how it may look at the moment. Develop the habit of positive expectations. You will be amazed at the effect this has on yourself and on the people around you.

The Law of Belief. This is the basic principle that underlies most religion, psychology, philosophy and metaphysics. The Law of Belief says that, “Whatever you believe, with conviction, becomes your reality.” In the New Testament it says, “According to your faith, it is done unto you.” In the Old Testament, it says, “As a man thinketh, in his heart (his beliefs), so is he.” William James of Harvard wrote, “Belief creates the actual fact.” The fact is that, “You do not believe what you see, but rather, you see what you already believe.” Your deeply held beliefs form a screen of prejudices that distort your external reality and cause you to see things not the way they are, but the way you are.
The worst of all beliefs are self-limiting beliefs. These are beliefs that you have developed through life, usually false, that cause you to believe that you are limited in some way. Your negative beliefs soon become habitual ways of thinking. You may believe that you lack intelligence, creativity, personality, the ability to speak publicly, the ability to earn a high income, the ability to lose weight, or the ability to achieve your goals. As a result of your self-limiting beliefs, you continually “sell yourself short,” give up easily in the pursuit of a goal, and even worse, tell other people around you that you lack certain qualities or abilities. Your beliefs then become your realities. “You are not what you think you are, but what you think,you are.”
In developing your habits, one of the most important steps you take is to challenge your self-limiting beliefs. You begin this process by imagining that you have no limitations at all. When you develop your mind to the point where you absolutely believe that you can do anything you put your mind to, you will find a way to make that belief a reality. As a result, your whole life will change.  Beliefs are the hardest things of all to change. But there is good news. It is that all beliefs are learned. And anything that has been learned can be unlearned. You can develop the beliefs of courage, confidence and unstoppable persistence that you need for great success by reprogramming your subconscious mind in a specific way.

Take your relationship to another level,and may your love grow for each other stronger and stronger.

1. If your partner has to work late, take a lunch box and fill it with some of her favorite things such as chocolates, herbal tea, cookies, a small teddy bear. Next, get a piece of paper and write :”Michelle’s Late Night Survival Pack”.
Draw a big red cross below this and stick the paper to the top of the box. Tell your partner to open the box when things get really tough.
2. Leave a long stem rose where your partner will find it with a note on it saying: “Thank you for coming into my life.”
3. When your spouse has had a really long hard day, run a hot bath for her. Pour some fragrant bath oil into the tub and gently bathe her from head to toe. Carry her into the bedroom. Gently towel her dry and tuck her into a freshly made bed with a kiss on the forehead.
4. For this idea you will need a portable CD player. If you and your partner have a favorite song, get a copy of it on CD and take it with you when you go away for a romantic weekend.
When you are in a romantic spot, ask your partner if she would like to dance. Place one earpiece in her ear and one in your own and enjoy your private dance floor.
This technique is particularly effective if the romantic spot you have chosen is somewhere where people would not normally dance, for example, the top of the Empire State building at sunset or on top of a mountain during a camping trip.
5. Invite your partner to go for a walk. Get a back pack and pack the following items: A picnic blanket, a selection of fruit in small containers eg. strawberries, grapes, watermelon and kiwi fruit. Some cheese and crackers. Some sandwiches. A small tin of caviar. A half bottle of champagne and two plastic champagne glasses. If your partner asks what’s in the backpack, just say a jacket and some lunch.
When you find a romantic spot, ask if she would like to stop for a bite to eat. Open your pack and remove the items one by one to set up your picnic. The last item you remove should be the glasses and champagne.
6. On a special occasion like your partner’s birthday, plan a treasure hunt for her. The fun begins when you suggest going for a walk on the beach.
When you get to the beach, carry a small bag with you. The bag contains a bottle that you prepared earlier. Inside the bottle is a treasure map. To make the treasure map look authentic, burn the edges with a match.
As you are walking, slip the bottle out of your bag and let it drop to the sand near the water’s edge. You may have to pause and kiss your partner to do this unnoticed. Walk a little further up the beach then turn around and retrace your steps to ‘discover’ the bottle.
On the map have a dotted line leading from the beach to a nearby cafe. At the cafe, your partner won’t know what to look for so suggest that you just sit down and have a cup of coffee.
When the waitress delivers the coffee, she suggests to your partner that she might find what she is looking for under the coaster. When your partner turns over the coaster she finds a key taped to the bottom. Obviously you will have to set this up before hand with the waitress. Most waitresses will be happy to help a romantic guy out with this type of thing.
At the next stop on the map, your partner finds or is given a spade. Then at the last stop on the map your partner finds a large ‘X’ made up of two crossed sticks. She digs and discovers a locked box. The key unlocks the box to reveal her present.
7. If your partner has voice mail at work or on her mobile, leave a message saying: “Just wanted to let you know that I’m thinking of you.” She will appreciate this anytime but especially when she is going through a rough period.
8. Buy some rose petals and place them behind the sun visor on the passenger side of your car. Take a post it note and write, “I Love You” on it and stick it to the back of the sun visor. As you are driving to a romantic destination, look at your partner and tell her she has a mark on her cheek. She will pull down the sun visor to use the mirror and be showered in rose petals and see your note.
9. Next time it is raining really heavily, go for a walk with your partner. Forget the umbrellas and the raincoats. Run through the streets together, jump in puddles and get totally saturated.
Pick her up, twirl her around and kiss her while the rain falls. Taste the water off her face and hold her close. When you get back home have a hot shower and then share a warm drink preferably in front of an open fire.
10. When your partner is sitting at a table or desk, come up behind him or her and give her a back, shoulder and head massage. Finish with a gentle kiss on the cheek.

Never get tired to take care of your partner.

1. If your partner is going away for a few days, tell her that you are worried about her so you have organized a bodyguard to look after her. Then give her a small teddy bear.

2. Buy a packet of glow in the dark stars and stick the stars on the roof above your bed to spell out a message such as “I Love You” When the lights go down, your message will be revealed!

3. On a special occasion, buy your partner eleven real red roses and one artificial red rose. Place the artificial rose in the center of the bouquet.
Attach a card that says:
“I will love you until the last rose fades.”

4. Buy the domain name of your partner’s name if it is available for example www.TanyaJohnston.com. Create a web page containing a romantic poem and a picture of a rose. When your partner is surfing the web, casually ask whether she has ever checked to see whether her domain name is taken. Let her type it in to discover her page.

5. Buy a stylish hand mirror and give it to your partner as a gift. Include a card in the box saying “In this mirror you will see the image of the most beautiful woman in the world.”

6. Take a book that your partner is reading and using a pencil, underline letters in a section of the book she has yet to read to spell out a love letter. For example in the following exert from a novel, the underlined letters come together to spell out the secret message “I love you”
The palace was a labyrinth, their passage through it tortuous and interminable. Initially they passed from building to building under the sodden sky. Steve’s feet ached; he might have laughed at himself, the tireless traveler, grown too soft from his months in the city to walk any proper distance. Abruptly the guards halted.
The underlined letters will make your partner curious and with a bit of luck she will write them down. Spend time to encode a proper message such as “Dear Belinda, I love you honey”

7. Have flowers delivered to your partner’s workplace. She will not only enjoy the flowers but will also receive comments and attention from her office mates which will add to her enjoyment.

8. While walking with your partner on a weekend getaway, pick up a smooth stone and say that you’re going to keep it as a special memento of your trip. Later, have a message such as
“I Love Rebecca”
engraved into the stone by a jeweler and give it to your partner.

9. Drive into the country, find a grassy hill and lie with your partner and look up at the clouds. Play the kid’s game of looking for shapes in the cloud formations.

10. Get a piece of paper and some crayons. Draw a bright childlike picture with a smiley sun and two stick figures holding hands. Add labels with your two names pointing to the stick figures. Write “I Love You” inside a heart.
Next get a large formal envelope. Place your drawing inside and type up a formal address label of your partner’s work such as:
For the immediate and urgent attention of:
Mary Jones
Level 20
Collins  Solicitors
London
Mail it to your partner so she receives it in the middle of a busy day.

And finally,be Nice,Kind, and Helpful ,- THE BEST YOU CAN BE,that will be the biggest gift you will ever give to your partner!  End remember, the decisions you make wright now,it will effect the results you get after! So, WHAT ARE YOU WAITING FOR?,DO SOMETHING NOW,WHILE YOU CAN,cause yesterday is gone and tomorrow is not here. And remember YOU HAVE THE POWER TO CREATE THE FUTURE YOU DESIRE. So,have a great day,!

It is a very old saying that “a man’s wife may either make him or break him,” but the reason is not always understood. The “making” and “breaking” is the result of the wife’s understanding, or lack of understanding of the emotions of love, sex, and romance. Despite the fact that men are polygamous, by the very nature of their biological inheritance, it is true that no woman has as great a influence on a man as his wife, unless he is married to a woman totally unsuited to his nature. If a woman permits her husband to lose interest in her, and become more interested in other women, it is usually because of her ignorance, or indifference toward the subjects of sex, love, and romance. This statement presupposes, of course, that genuine love once existed between a man and his wife. The facts are equally applicable to a man who permits his wife’s interest in him to die. Married people often bicker over a multitude of trivialities. If these are analyzed accurately, the real cause of the trouble will often be found to be indifference, or ignorance on these subjects. Man’s greatest motivating force is his desire to please woman!
The hunter who excelled during prehistoric days, before the dawn of civilization, did so, because of his desire to appear great in the eyes of woman. Man’s nature has not changed in this respect. The “hunter” of today brings home no skins of wild animals, but he indicates his desire for her favor by supplying fine clothes, motor cars, and wealth. Man has the same desire to please woman that he had before the dawn of civilization. The only thing that has changed, is his method of pleasing. Men who made fortunes, and attain to great heights of power and fame, do so,mainly, to satisfy their desire to please women. Take women out of their lives, and great wealth would be useless to most men. It is this inherent desire of man to please woman, which gives woman the power to make or break a man. The woman who understands man’s nature and tactfully caters to it, need have no fear of competition from other women. Men may
be “giants” with indomitable will-power when dealing with other men, but they are easily managed by the women of their choice. Most men will not admit that they are easily influenced by the women they prefer, because it is in the nature of the male to want to be recognized as the stronger of the species. Moreover, the intelligent woman recognizes this “manly trait” and very wisely
makes no issue of it. Some men know that they are being influenced by the women of their choice—their wives, sweethearts, mothers or sisters—but they tactfully refrain from rebelling against the influence because they are intelligent enough to know that NO MAN IS HAPPY OR COMPLETE WITHOUT THE MODIFYING INFLUENCE OF THE RIGHT WOMAN. The man who does not recognize this important truth deprives himself of the power which has done more to help men achieve success than all other forces combined.

There are four simple steps which lead to the habit of persistence. You don’t have to be a genius, or to have particular amount of education, the only thing you need- little time and effort. The four necessary steps for developing persistence are:—

1. You’ve got to know want you want in life,in other words,find purpose for your life. For example,if I say Mike Tyson-your will say he is a boxer,if I say Michael Jordan-you’ll say he is a basketballer,if I say for instance your name- what other people would say about you,cause that is a clue what your mission in life is.Other people see something what you may not see.I know that many people struggling with defining what they really would like to do for the rest of there life. It’s very important to know what you really want to do and which direction to go in life. Here is another clue,what comes naturally out of your mouth when you meet with your friends,on which subject you like to talk,make research,to hear about most. What moves you and gets your full attention. I’ll give another example,my friend is pastor and he’s been in that position for about 12 years,and he is struggling ,even though he is doing his best,and he is PERSISTANT in learning no matter what other people think about him,I know that many times he was asking himself,should he stay or leave that position,and he knows what other people think about him being in that position too,that he is not called to be a pastor,BUT when it needs doing administrative job he has no rivals,he is good at that,he is flying if you like,he is creative,enthusiastic energetic,cause he feels confurtable in that position. Another thing that will help you- what is your strongest side,what is your dominating gift,where you most creative and enthusiastic all that are indicators to point you to the right direction. Remember,when you decide what you wanna do in life it must be backed by burning desire for its fullfilment . You will never be persistent in anything what you don’t like doing.

2.An exact plan,expressed in continuous action.

3. A mind closed tightly against all negative and discouraging influences, including negative suggestions of relatives, friends and family…..

4. A friendly connection with one or more persons who will encourage you to follow through with both plan and purpose. These four steps are essential for success in all walks of life. The entire purpose of these four steps is to enable you to take these four steps as a matter of habit. These are the steps by which you will control your economic destiny. These are the steps that lead to freedom and independence of thought. These are the steps that lead to riches, power, fame, and worldly recognition. These are the four steps which guarantee favorable “breaks.” These are the steps that convert dreams into physical realities,and also lead to the mastery of fear,discouragement, indifference. There is a magnificent reward for all who learn to take these four steps. What mystical power gives to men of persistence the capacity to master difficulties? Does the quality of persistence set up in your mind some form of spiritual, mental or chemical activity which gives you access to supernatural forces? Does God (Infinite Intelligence) throw itself on the side of the person who still fights on,after the battle has been lost, with the whole world on the opposing side? If you make an impartial study of the prophets, philosophers,”miracle” men, and religious leaders of the past, they’ve been drawn to the inevitable conclusion that persistence, concentration of effort,and definiteness of purpose , were the major sources of their achievements. And remember as I always say “The Best Is Jet To Come” Don’t Forget! Have A Great Day.

The Law of Deliberate Creation. The Law that we must learn, understand and implement if we want to see real results is ‘The Law of Deliberate Creation’. There are another 6 laws which also are very important,but today I will be talking about the law of “Deliberate Creation”.

The Law of Deliberate Creation: That which I give thought to, I begin to attract. What I give thought to with emotion, I attract more quickly.

That which you think about, you get. When you give thought to something you desire with an expectation or believe in it, you are then in the place to receive it.

So, how is this different from the Law of Attraction?

The difference between the Law of Attraction and the Law of Deliberate Creation is that, the Law of Attraction is like a boomerang. Whatever we give out with our energy vibrations (thoughts, feelings, etc) we will receive back to us. The Law of Deliberate Creation is offering a vibration knowingly, so that you don’t create by default. Most of the time, unless you are aware of these laws, you are offering a vibration unknowingly.

For example, if you are witnessing something that makes you happy, you are raising your vibration and you will then vibrate happiness. On the other hand, if you witness something that makes you angry, you will offer that same negative vibration. The Law of Attraction responds to whatever you are vibrating by giving you more of the same.

When you don’t apply the Law of Deliberate Creation you are an observer. You focus on your current reality and you have a vibration (either positive or negative). The Law of Attraction then responds to that vibration and you receive more of the same.

Let’s say that you are in debt. You observe this “reality” and while observing that you don’t have enough money to pay your bills, you unconsciously offer a vibration that is negative (fear, worry, doubt, etc). The Law of Attraction responds to that negative, “I am in debt” vibration and as a result, the Law of Attraction brings you more of what you are vibrating (I am in debt) and feeds the cycle.

See, the Law of Attraction can work for you and against you. It is imperative that you fully understand the Law Of Deliberate Creation and you are aware of how all of these laws work together and affect each other. And finaly,as I always say-Remember, The Best Is Jet To Come!  Have a Great Day!

The majority of men never learn that the urge of sex has other possibilities, which far transcend in importance, that of mere physical expression. The desire for sexual expression is by far the strongest and most impelling of all the human emotions, and for this very reason this desire, when harnessed and transmuted into action, other than that of physical expression, may raise you to the status of a genius. It is a fact well known to psychologists that there is a very close relationship between sex desires and spiritual urges—a fact which accounts for the peculiar behavior of people who participate in the gatherings  known as religious “revivals,”.The world is ruled, and the destiny of civilization is established,by the human emotions. People are influenced in their actions, not by reason so much as by “feelings.”There are other mind stimulants, but no one of them, nor all of them combined, can equal the driving power of sex. There is the factor of personality known as “personal magnetism” is nothing more nor less than sex energy. Highly sexed people always have a plentiful supply of magnetism. Through cultivation and understanding,this vital force may be drawn upon and used to great advantage in the relationships between people. This energy may be communicated to others through :
1. The hand-shake. The touch of the hand indicates, instantly, the presence of magnetism, or the lack of it.
2. The tone of voice. Magnetism, or sex energy, is the factor with which the voice may be colored, or made musical and charming.
3. Posture and carriage of the body. Highly sexed people move briskly, and with grace and ease.
4. The vibrations of thought. Highly sexed people mix the emotion of sex with their thoughts, or may do so at will, and in that way, may influence those around them.
5. Body adornment. People who are highly sexed are usually very careful about their personal appearance. They usually select clothing of a style becoming to their personality, physique, complexion,etc.
When employing salesmen, the more capable sales manager looks for the quality of personal magnetism as the first requirement of a salesman. People who lack sex energy will never become enthusiastic nor inspire others with enthusiasm, and enthusiasm is one of the most important requisites in salesmanship, no matter what one is selling. The public speaker, orator, preacher, lawyer, or salesman who is lacking in sex energy is a “flop,” as far as being able to influence others is concerned. Couple with this the fact, that most people can be influenced only through an appeal to their emotions, and you will understand the importance of sex energy as a part of the salesman’s native ability. Master salesmen attain the status of mastery in selling, because they, either consciously, or unconsciously,transmute the energy of sex into sales enthusiasm!
The salesman,or any other human being who knows how to take there mind off the subject of sex, and direct it into anything that they put there focus on ,with as much enthusiasm and
determination as they would apply to its original purpose, has acquired the art of sex transmutation, whether they know it or not,and once you learn how to do that,your life will never be the same.

We often have the perception that self-growth will be simple, enjoyable, and rewarding. It certainly can be, but there is also another aspect of the self-growth journey that is rarely mentioned. And that is, when everything falls apart.So, how do we deal with the pain and fear when everything falls apart? Our first reaction might be to run away to avoid feeling the pain. Another reaction might be to try and put everything back the way it was before it fell apart. But doing so only delays the process. Remember that the destruction is necessary in order to make room for the rebuilding of something better
When everything falls apart, pay special attention to the exact circumstances that have begun deteriorating. This gives you a big clue about the biggest lies (limiting beliefs you have formed) about yourself, and your life. Look for the connection between the blockages you are dissolving, and the circumstances that are coming apart at the seams. For example, if you have begun exploring your true talents and abilities, and then you suddenly lose your job, a little introspection may help you to realize that your job didn’t allow you to use those talents and abilities, so it needed to be removed to make way for a more fulfilling career. Sometimes the connections can be a little more vague and you may have to dig a little deeper. It may take some time to fully understand how everything is related, but if you keep at it, you will come to understand it and you can then use that knowledge to rebuild something better.This isn’t an easy process by any means. But it is oh so fulfilling and exhilarating if we embrace it and allow it to happen without fighting against the pain and fear. Through our trials and challenges come new levels of growth, wisdom, and inner strength beyond our wildest dreams. We just need to stay with the process and watch for the rainbows after the storm. So,self- growth is not escapism; and real knowledge is not in big words and philosophies; real knowledge is a daily experience of life. As James Allen observed “it is a common error to suppose that the Higher Life is a matter of reading and the adoption of theology or metaphysical hypothesis and that spiritual principles can be understood by this method. The Higher Life is a higher living in thought, word and deed, and the knowledge of these spiritual principles which are imminent in man and in the universe can only be acquired after long discipline in the pursuit and practice of virtue.” True philosophy is one that crystallizes in deed and in a truly mastered life; every other commitment is vain and only serves to deceive the simple.
There is no justification in seeking after the “higher truth” when you despise and therefore not apply yourself to the truth you currently know. There is a sense in which truth is synthetic; a mind that cannot comprehend the simple wisdom of life is incapable of handling the deeper mysteries of destiny. As they say, it is only when the student is ready that the master appears; it is only when you prove yourself worthy in the ordinary obligations of life that you will be given charge over the great responsibilities that await disciplined and virtuous souls.

I invite you to conduct a growth commitment self test; how long have you been on this journey of growth and awareness? What is your true motivation on this journey? What are some of the things you have learned along the way? How many of these things are you practicing in your life right now?

You see, you will not be able to get the “big” revelations if you neglect the simple wisdom of everyday life. You cannot be entrusted with the riches of heaven if you prove unfaithful with the possessions of mortality; there is only one way from childhood to adulthood – it is the way of growth. The urgent call for you is this: do the Word. The wisdom of life is in thought, word and deed; nothing less. When duty calls, do not be found wanting; be counted among those worthy to stay the course and obtain the treasures of heaven.

In the final analysis, if you discover your True Calling in Life, and Choose to Follow your Passion – Realistically, you may not be in the ranks of the Rich and Famous. So, what is more important in the long run – Money, Status, Security, Comfort, or fulfilling yourself through following your True Passion?

We all have a choice; one can live his life and not question his existence, or choose to examine his life. We do not have to seek out our own mission and purpose, nor live our lives True to our own Hearts.

But, an important question to ask ourselves is this – If we do not Aspire to be all we were put on this earth to be, will we have truly lived our lives in the best possible way? At the end of our lives, will we feel we have lived our lives to the fullest? Will we be satisfied with our accomplishments and what we contributed to the planet, and be a willing participant transitioning to the Great Beyond?

In other words, if you finally feel that you have fulfilled your purpose here, what more is there to do, but leave this earth when you are called upon to do so? When it is your time to pass away, will you have done everything you wanted to do with your life?

We only get one chance at living. We only have one chance to do our lives right. That is it. This is the reason why you should put your heart into all you do, and to make certain you choose to do only those things you have the passion for. While you are still alive, you have the chance to complete your life on earth. Do it with all your heart, so there will be no regrets. Find your Dreams, and then pursue them – This may be the only thing you do that you will not regret.

Love, Romance, and Sex are all emotions capable of driving men to heights of super achievement. Love is the emotion which serves as a safety valve, and insures balance, poise, and
constructive effort. When combined, these three emotions may lift you to an altitude of a genius. Memories of love never pass. They linger, guide, and influence long after the source of stimulation has faded. There is nothing new in this. Every person, who has been moved by genuine love,knows that it leaves enduring traces upon the human heart. The effect of love endures, because love is spiritual in nature. The man is stimulated to great heights of achievement by love. Even the memories of love are sufficient to lift one to a higher plane of creative effort. The major force of love may spend itself and pass away, like a fire which has burned itself out, but it leaves behind indelible marks as evidence that it passed that way. Its
departure often prepares the human heart for a still greater love. Go back into your yesterdays, at times, and bathe your mind in the beautiful memories of past love. It will soften the influence of the present worries and annoyances. It will give you a source of escape from the unpleasant realities of life, and maybe who knows?—your mind will yield to you, during this temporary retreat into the world of fantasy, ideas, or plans which may change the entire financial or spiritual status of your life.
If you believe yourself unfortunate, because you have “loved and lost,” perish the thought. One who has loved truly, can never lose entirely. Love is whimsical and temperamental. Its nature is ephemeral, and transitory. It comes when it pleases, and goes away without warning. Accept and enjoy it while it remains, but spend no time worrying about its departure. Worry will never bring it back. Dismiss, also, the thought that love never comes but once. Love may come and go, times without number, but there are no two love experiences which affect you in just the same way. There may be,and there usually is, one love experience which leaves a deeper imprint on the heart than all the others, but all love experiences are beneficial, except to the person who becomes resentful and cynical when love makes its departure. There should be no disappointment over love, and there would be none if people understood the difference between the emotions of love and sex. The major difference is that love is spiritual, while sex is biological. No experience, which touches the human heart with a spiritual force, can possibly be harmful, except through ignorance,or jealousy.
Love is, without question, life’s greatest experience. It brings you into communion with God or Infinite Intelligence if you like. When mixed with the emotions of romance and sex, it may lead one far up the ladder of creative effort. The emotions of love, sex, and romance, are sides of the eternal triangle of achievement-building genius. Nature creates genii through no other force. Love is an emotion with many sides, shades, and colors. The love which you feel for parents, or children is quite different from that which you feel for your sweetheart. The one is mixed with the emotion of sex, while the other is not. The love which one feels in true friendship is not the same as that felt for your sweetheart, parents, or children, but it, too, is a
form of love. But the most intense and burning of all these various kinds of love, is that experienced in the blending of the emotions of love and sex. Marriages, not blessed with the eternal affinity of love, properly balanced and proportioned, with sex, cannot be happy ones—and seldom endure. Love, alone, will not bring happiness in marriage, nor will sex alone. When these two beautiful emotions are blended, marriage may bring about a state of mind, closest to the spiritual that you may ever know on this earthly plane.
When the emotion of romance is added to those of love and sex,the OBSTRUCTIONS  between the finite mind of man and God (Infinite Intelligence) are removed.
Then a genius has been born!

The majority of people permit relatives, friends, and the public at large to so influence them that they cannot live their own lives,because they fear criticism. Many people make mistakes in marriage,job, stand by the bargain, and go through life miserable and unhappy, because they fear criticism which may follow if they correct the mistake. Anyone who has submitted to this form of fear knows the irreparable damage it does, by destroying ambition, self-believe,and the desire to achieve. People refuse to take chances in business, because they fear the criticism which may follow if they fail. The fear of criticism, in such cases is stronger than the desire for success. Too many people refuse to set high goals for themselves, or even neglect selecting a career, because they fear the criticism of relatives and “friends” who may say “Don’t aim so high, people will think you are crazy. I remember when I first time have mentioned to my girlfriend that I want to start an Internet business,you’ll not believe instead of getting some kind of support,she has started to worn me about the danger,and in some way to try to protect me from such crazy idea . My other friends would make jokes out of me,when I was sharing my dream about having Internet business,they even would not stay and listen to me for more then 3 minutes. When I was sharing about my dream I could read in there faces what they have tried to say that I’m crazy,that I haven’t got enough brains to do it. Even though I haven’t got a clue about Internet and computers,my knowledge is almost big Zero. It seemed as if the whole world had suddenly turned its attention to me with the purpose of ridiculing me into giving up all desire to achieve my dream . But even that can’t stop me from reaching my goal,I haven’t got almost anybody who would believe in me and I don’t care to be honest who believes in me and who doesn’t,cause I believe in myself and I know that nothing will stop me,temporary setbacks,opposition,anything from reaching my dream. Because I have burning desire within me to be financially free and to do things that I love most,secondly I know exactly what I want to achieve ,thirdly I make every day actions toward my dream and I know sooner o later I will reach my destination. The FEAR OF CRITICISM is at the bottom of the destruction of most ideas which never reach the planning and action stage. Many people believe that material success is the result of favorable “breaks.” There is an element of ground for the belief, but those depending entirely upon luck, are nearly always disappointed,because they overlook another important factor which must be present before you can be sure of success. It is the knowledge with which favorable breaks can be made to order. Read those stories and imagine what burning desire,definite plane of action,persistence did for those people,and imagine what it can do for you. During the depression, W. C. Fields, the comedian, lost all his money, and found himself without income, without a job, and his means of earning a living no longer existed. Moreover,he was past sixty, when many men consider themselves old. He was so determined to stage a comeback that he offered to work without pay, in a new field (movies). In addition to his other troubles, he fell and injured his neck. To many that would have been the place to give up and quit. But Fields was persistent. He knew that if he carried on he would get the breaks sooner or later, and he did get them, but not by chance. Marie Dressler found herself down and out, with her money gone, with no job, when she was about sixty. She, too, went after the breaks, and got them. Her persistence brought an astounding triumph late in life, long beyond the age when most men and women are done with ambition to achieve. Eddie Cantor lost his money in the 1929 stock crash, but he still had his PERSISTENCE and his courage. With these, plus two prominent eyes, he exploited himself back into an income of $10,000 a week! Verily, if you have persistence, you can get along very well without many other qualities. The only “break” anyone can afford to rely upon is a self-made “break.” These come through persistence. The starting point is definiteness of purpose. Examine the first fifty people you meet, ask them what they want most in life, and forty eight of them will not be able to tell you. If you press them for an answer, some will say security, many will say money, a few will say happiness,others will say fame and power and so on …, but none of them will be able to define these terms, or give the slightest indication of a plan by which they hope to attain these expressed wishes. Riches do not respond to wishes. They respond only to definite plans, backed by definite desires, through constant persistence. I hope that you have learned something from this article that will help you in the future to fight this FEAR OF CRITICISM .  And remember The Best Is Jet To Come!  Have A Great Day!